Hey Nice Guys,
After a day of counseling (and of the 6 sessions, 4 were really in the Nice Guy category - including a Nice/Nice couple!), I have a bunch I'd like to write, but I need to go take care of the baby.
In my stead, I point you at fellow therapist Steve McReady's blog - Happy Now, Sad Later - which is directed at more than just NG's, but hits some important points.
The ability to stand discomfort, because you need to do something right, or say something true, is the royal road out for NGs.
Read and learn!